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Appreciation

How to Facilitate an Appreciation Circle

Appreciation

You shouldn’t say ‘I love you’ unless you really mean it. Then you should say it a lot. People forget that. ~ Jessica, Age 8 Studies have found that practicing appreciation can improve relationshps and motivate employees.  It can also increase wellness and lessen stress. In short, regular appreciation will not only boost performance and engagement, but also improve an employee’s health and well-being. There are certainly many ways to show appreciation.One of my favorites to use with a work group is to facilitate an appreciation circle. Getting Comfortable with the Uncomfortable Participating in an appreciation circle can be uncomfortable for some at

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Lisa’s Nest: A Story of Limitless Love

Lisa's Bird Nest

This month marks the 6th year I have walked in Seattle’s SummeRun. My sister-in-law, Lisa, lost her battle with Ovarian cancer 5 years ago.  Our team, Limitless Love for Lisa, walks in her honor with family members and friends, to raise funds to benefit the Marsha Rivkin Center for Ovarian Cancer Research. Our goal is to end this horrible disease. This year our team was a small, but mighty group.  Since some of us only connect annually at this event,  I always look forward to talking and walking with them. This year I walked most of the 3 miles with one of Lisa’s

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Atta-Girl: Why You Should Have an Appreciation Notebook

Appreciation Notebook

Wouldn’t it be nice if we could have access to all the kind words of appreciation and encouragement that anyone has ever said to us? You know, on those days where you wonder why you do what you do, or when life sends a curve ball your way. Or when you just need to be reminded that people do appreciate the work you’ve done. Many years ago, when I was having a bad day at work, a mentor of mine told me about an “Atta-Boy” file he had started.  He collected all the nice emails, cards, awards, sticky notes, and

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My Mother’s Eyes

Mother’s Day is bittersweet for me.  On one hand, I am blessed to be a mom of two amazing children, a mom-in-law to their spouses I have come to adore, and a Grammy to our first grandchild. On the other hand, my heart aches for my own mom. Mother’s Day reminds me of all of the wonderful memories I have of my mom and it makes me sad for the ones we never got to make. My mom loved to make others happy. She was the most generous and kind person you could ever know. Always knitting, quilting or baking for someone else;

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Connecting Through Kindness

Cornerstone Coaching and Training

In 1982,  a woman in California scribbled the words, “practice random acts of kindness and senseless acts of beauty” on a place mat in a restaurant. That simple note gained momentum and quickly spread as a message calling all of us to practice caring and compassion. Now, every year during the week of Valentine’s Day, there is an official Random Acts of Kindness (RAK) Week. This year marked the 20th year that a week has been specifically set aside to celebrate the power of kindness. Kindness is an act that inspires others to connect, respect, and make a contribution to

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Communicate Your Love|Give Your Valentine a Heart Attack

Cornerstone Coaching and Training

Valentine’s Day is a great time to think about how to communicate how much you appreciate your loved ones in your life.  Communicating your love is sometimes uncomfortable, but always important. Communicating well can be the best way to improve and get what you want out of any relationship. Here are some really easy, inexpensive and tangible ways to do that. Give them a “Heart Attack!” Take heart shaped sticky notes and write love statements (why you love them, or simply write “I love you”). Put them all over a mirror, door, walkway, counter – wherever they will easily find

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10 Ways to be a More Positive Communicator

Cornerstone Coaching and Training

You never know when one kind act, or one word of encouragement, can change a life forever. – Zig Ziglar One of the most powerful ways to improve relationships is to simply be a more positive communicator. Positive communication is contagious and brings out the best in yourself and in those around you. When you practice positive communication, people are more likely to listen to you, the conversation goes better, and the results can be transforming. The following is an excerpt  from my book, Dancing with Strangers,  and puts the concept to work: 10 ways to be a more positive communicator 1.

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Yes, I still do! 10 communication tips to improve your marriage

Cornerstone Coaching and Training

This month was my 38th wedding anniversary.  Being married to a complete opposite isn’t easy, but it sure is worth the hard work….. Like most marriages, my husband and I have many important things in common – our shared belief in God, our treasured family, and some interests and hobbies including music, hiking, dogs, and cop shows (I follow the relationships, he follows the action). Also, as in most marriages, we are very different in many, many ways. For example, we view money differently (I spend, he saves) and we don’t always agree on how clean our house should be (I’m a slob,

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Communication Tools: The Power of Micro-Connects

Cornerstone Coaching and Training

I can live one or two months  on one good compliment – Mark Twain One of the deepest human needs is to feel appreciated.  It’s what makes us feel valued. It’s what makes us happy and it’s what motivates us.  We live in a culture that is appreciation deprived.  Studies show that up to 70% of workers feel they are not appreciated. But, the good news is that when you give appreciation to someone on a regular and informal basis, you will see a 40% increase in their performance. Wow! Why don’t we do more of that? Mostly it’s because we

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Positive comments – are yours 5 to 1?

Cornerstone Coaching and Training

When words are both true and kind, they can change our world. ~ Buddha   Are you a positive communicator?  Do you focus on what’s going well instead of what isn’t going well?  Do you regularly practice appreciation and gratitude?  Are your words kind and positive? Are you sure? Many of us don’t think much about how we come across. Quite frankly, we aren’t all that self aware. We tend to think we come off better and more positive than we really do. Studies show that positive to negative comments should be in a 5 to 1 ratio for a

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