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Gratitude

Atta-Girl: Why You Should Have an Appreciation Notebook

Appreciation Notebook

Wouldn’t it be nice if we could have access to all the kind words of appreciation and encouragement that anyone has ever said to us? You know, on those days where you wonder why you do what you do, or when life sends a curve ball your way. Or when you just need to be reminded that people do appreciate the work you’ve done. Many years ago, when I was having a bad day at work, a mentor of mine told me about an “Atta-Boy” file he had started.  He collected all the nice emails, cards, awards, sticky notes, and

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When an Interrupted Life Becomes a Blessing

When Life is Interrupted

My husband, Ken, went to the high school to see his last group of former 6th grade band students play in their last concert, while I shopped for our grandson’s 1st birthday. Not long after I had returned home, my phone rang. It was Ken. He wanted me to come pick him up because he wasn’t feeling well. I didn’t think too much of it – probably a tummy or head ache. Then, as I saw him on the curb waiting for me, things slowed down. I could feel life being interrupted. Something wasn’t right. He said he was having chest

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My Mother’s Eyes

Mother’s Day is bittersweet for me.  On one hand, I am blessed to be a mom of two amazing children, a mom-in-law to their spouses I have come to adore, and a Grammy to our first grandchild. On the other hand, my heart aches for my own mom. Mother’s Day reminds me of all of the wonderful memories I have of my mom and it makes me sad for the ones we never got to make. My mom loved to make others happy. She was the most generous and kind person you could ever know. Always knitting, quilting or baking for someone else;

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Connecting Through Kindness

Cornerstone Coaching and Training

In 1982,  a woman in California scribbled the words, “practice random acts of kindness and senseless acts of beauty” on a place mat in a restaurant. That simple note gained momentum and quickly spread as a message calling all of us to practice caring and compassion. Now, every year during the week of Valentine’s Day, there is an official Random Acts of Kindness (RAK) Week. This year marked the 20th year that a week has been specifically set aside to celebrate the power of kindness. Kindness is an act that inspires others to connect, respect, and make a contribution to

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Communicate Your Love|Give Your Valentine a Heart Attack

Cornerstone Coaching and Training

Valentine’s Day is a great time to think about how to communicate how much you appreciate your loved ones in your life.  Communicating your love is sometimes uncomfortable, but always important. Communicating well can be the best way to improve and get what you want out of any relationship. Here are some really easy, inexpensive and tangible ways to do that. Give them a “Heart Attack!” Take heart shaped sticky notes and write love statements (why you love them, or simply write “I love you”). Put them all over a mirror, door, walkway, counter – wherever they will easily find

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Yes, I still do! 10 communication tips to improve your marriage

Cornerstone Coaching and Training

This month was my 38th wedding anniversary.  Being married to a complete opposite isn’t easy, but it sure is worth the hard work….. Like most marriages, my husband and I have many important things in common – our shared belief in God, our treasured family, and some interests and hobbies including music, hiking, dogs, and cop shows (I follow the relationships, he follows the action). Also, as in most marriages, we are very different in many, many ways. For example, we view money differently (I spend, he saves) and we don’t always agree on how clean our house should be (I’m a slob,

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10 Easy Appreciation Exercises that Will Change Your Life

Cornerstone Coaching and Training

It may sound overly simple, but adding purposeful appreciation towards others can be one of the most powerful communication tools you can hone.  People want and need to feel appreciated.  People will respond better, and perform better when they are genuinely valued.  Try any of the following appreciation exercises and watch what happens. 1. Caught Ya! Catch someone doing something right and call them out. For example, say thank you when someone does something nice for you.  You can go one step further, even giving them a small gift, like a small bag of candy, and leaving it with a short

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My Most Read Posts on Communication

Cornerstone Coaching and Training

This is my lazy period between Christmas and New Year. Time to review 2015 – the highs, lows, what I did really well and what I can do better next year. I like to look at my previous years posts, and see what spoke to people.  It’s a fun retrospective and helps me set some goals for the new year.  It was interesting to see what my readers read, liked and shared most.  So, if you missed them, here they are – my most read posts of 2015: Photo by:Shootin'For Fun 1. How to Have the Best Staff Meeting Ever – When boring

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A Christmas Wish

Cornerstone Coaching and Training

  Wishing You a Wonderful Christmas GIVE BELIEVE BE JOYFUL SING HAPPILY PLAN FAMILY FUN WISH UPON A STAR BE MERRY AND BRIGHT KISS UNDER MISTLETOE BE WITH YOUR LOVED ONES ENJOY YOUR HOLIDAY TREATS DREAM OF A WHITE CHRISTMAS MISS THOSE WHO ARE FAR AWAY CREATE MEMORIES FOR YEARS TO COME HUG YOUR LOVED ONES A LITTLE BIT TIGHTER REFLECT ON THE JOYFUL YEAR THAT IS BEHIND US BE THANKFUL BE GRATEFUL Betty Lochner is the Owner of Cornerstone Coaching & Training. She specializes in personal and organizational transformation and is the author of  Dancing with Strangers: Communication skills

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The Thanksgiving Gratitude Challenge

“Piglet noticed that even though he had a very small heart, it could hold a rather large amount of gratitude.”  – A.A. Milne, Winnie the Pooh  When my kids were young we went around the table at Thanksgiving and shared what we were thankful for. The adults went with the family, friends and health theme but the kids – well, they kept it real. Some examples: “I’m thankful I found my lost lego man;” “I’m thankful that Christmas is coming next;” and one of my all time favorites “I’m thankful I’m not a Pilgrim.” Yes, Thanksgiving is  the one day of

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