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Non verbal communication

10 Ways to be a More Positive Communicator

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You never know when one kind act, or one word of encouragement, can change a life forever. – Zig Ziglar One of the most powerful ways to improve relationships is to simply be a more positive communicator. Positive communication is contagious and brings out the best in yourself and in those around you. When you practice positive communication, people are more likely to listen to you, the conversation goes better, and the results can be transforming. The following is an excerpt  from my book, Dancing with Strangers,  and puts the concept to work: 10 ways to be a more positive communicator 1.

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Communication Skills and the 55 Percent

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I didn’t really say everything I said. – Yogi Berra It’s been a while since I’ve gotten back to basics so I’m refreshing one of my early blogs that really hones in on that.  It all starts with this: successful communication is a package deal. It’s in the words you speak, in the tone of your voice and in the language of your body. One study conducted at UCLA found that the impact of communication is: 7% = words spoken/written + 38% = percent tone of voice + 55% = percent body language  Let’s talk about the 55 percent If most of

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Communication Tools: The Power of Micro-Connects

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I can live one or two months  on one good compliment – Mark Twain One of the deepest human needs is to feel appreciated.  It’s what makes us feel valued. It’s what makes us happy and it’s what motivates us.  We live in a culture that is appreciation deprived.  Studies show that up to 70% of workers feel they are not appreciated. But, the good news is that when you give appreciation to someone on a regular and informal basis, you will see a 40% increase in their performance. Wow! Why don’t we do more of that? Mostly it’s because we

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Communicating Respect | Test your skills

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Respect is about how to treat everyone, not just those you want to impress. ~ Richard Branson   How do you spell R-E-S-P-E-C-T?  Something I hear alot from people that are having trouble communicating is:  He/she just doesn’t respect me.  Have you ever felt that way? Why is that? For most of us, not showing respect isn’t something we intentionally do.  It’s much easier to see what a lack of respect looks like in others, than to recognize when you aren’t showing respectful behavior.  Quite simply – we don’t always notice our own behaviors and non-verbal cues that can be perceived

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Good Communication Starts by Changing Three Things

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The quality of a person’s life is in direct proportion to their commitment to excellence, regardless of their chosen field or endeavor. ~ Vince Lombardi I really like this quote – it reminds me that to be excellent in an area of your life you have to choose excellence and be totally committed to it.  Like the kid kissing the pig, you have to be all in. Most relationships struggle with communication in some way.  Quite simply, when we are communicating well with someone, things go so much better than when we aren’t. A personal commitment to strive for better communication is

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Fearless presentations: 5 small things that will make a big difference

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  Public speaking is not only in the top 10 list of things people are afraid of doing, it’s #1! The 14 Worst Human Fears When a team of market researchers asked 3000 Americans “What are you most afraid of?” many fears were named — Speaking before a group comes in as #1 Biggest Fear (with percentage of the group that named it as their biggest fear): 1 Speaking before a group 41 2 Heights 32 3 Insects and bugs 22 3 Financial Problems 22 3 Deep water 22 6 Sickness 19 6 Death 19 8 Flying 18 9 Loneliness

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Three ways to use body language to communicate better

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TIP #8: Know your body language. When we seek to bring out the best in others, we bring out the best in ourselves.  ~ William Arthur Your body language says a lot about you.  Experts say it makes up over 70% of your total communication message.  Way more than the words you use! Using good body language can make a huge difference in the connection you make and the success of your communication. To be an effective communicator, your body language should help you connect and engage and be consistent with your words.  Here are three important body language basics: 1)     

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The Power of the Pause

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Do you ever wonder how you get yourself in the situations you do? You know, you try to do your best to communicate really well, and then – there you go again. You end up saying something wrong, or you just don’t come off the way you wanted. Here’s my best tip for getting yourself out of the mess you are getting yourself into: PAUSE!  The concept was Pause was first introduced to me by Eric Allenbaugh, a long-time mentor and trainer of Performance Coaching. Learning the power of a Pause can make a huge difference in improving your communication

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Go ahead, Smile!

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The truth about smiling: communication at it’s best Smiling can be a powerful communication tool. And, many studies have concluded that smiles come with lots of unexpected benefits. Here are a few smile facts you may not know: Smiling has been proven to make you appear more friendly, approachable, confident and competent. A genuine smile is contagious.  When you are smile, you’ll instantly make 25% of your friends happier and 10% of their friends happier. Your smile can be a predictor of how long you’ll live – an average of 7 years longer than non-smilers. We were born to smile.

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Conquering interviews: the 3 golden soft skills you must have

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    Good communication is the #1 skill that organizations are looking for when they hire and promote their staff. In the hiring world, good communication is often referred to as “soft skills” or as “emotional intelligence.” Here’s the Wikipedia definition of soft skills: Personal attributes that enhance an individual’s interactions, job performance and career prospects. Unlike hard skills, which are about a person’s skill set and ability to perform a certain type of task or activity, soft skills relate to a person’s ability to interact effectively with co-workers and customers and are broadly applicable both in and outside the workplace.

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