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Clarifying Your Message: Three Steps to Effective Communication

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I didn’t understand, based on the words that were said. ~ Romy and Michelle’s High School Reunion One of the most common communication mistakes we make, and the easiest to fix, is how to better clarify what we mean to say. More often than not, when we communicate, the person we are talking to will not  really understand what you are trying to say. Or maybe they weren’t really listening.  Then they they don’t ask questions to make sure they understand. The result can be misunderstandings, hurt feelings, unanswered requests, and even damaged relationships.  You can increase the understanding by learning three

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Connecting Through Kindness

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In 1982,  a woman in California scribbled the words, “practice random acts of kindness and senseless acts of beauty” on a place mat in a restaurant. That simple note gained momentum and quickly spread as a message calling all of us to practice caring and compassion. Now, every year during the week of Valentine’s Day, there is an official Random Acts of Kindness (RAK) Week. This year marked the 20th year that a week has been specifically set aside to celebrate the power of kindness. Kindness is an act that inspires others to connect, respect, and make a contribution to

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Saying Goodbye to Ruben

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I wrote this blog a month or so after we lost our Ruben, but never managed to hit the “send” button.  It’s been about 5 months now and I just found it in my “drafts” folder.  It’s time to say goodbye…. If you’ve read any of my posts, you probably know about our “mini” dachshund, Ruben. Ruben was our daughter Kalli’s dog, adopted when her big brother went to college, as a fitting replacement for her daily companion. Ruben, named after Ruben Studdard won on American Idol in 2003,  was supposed to be a registered, mini-dachshund.  He was expected to reach about 9-11

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Positive comments – are yours 5 to 1?

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When words are both true and kind, they can change our world. ~ Buddha   Are you a positive communicator?  Do you focus on what’s going well instead of what isn’t going well?  Do you regularly practice appreciation and gratitude?  Are your words kind and positive? Are you sure? Many of us don’t think much about how we come across. Quite frankly, we aren’t all that self aware. We tend to think we come off better and more positive than we really do. Studies show that positive to negative comments should be in a 5 to 1 ratio for a

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5 ways to improve your work relationships

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Do you have people at work that you have trouble connecting with? Do you wish you could improve some of those relationships? It’s all too easy to get into a rut at work and find yourself unhappy with the behavior of others, or maybe even the way you react to it. As a leader, you can set the tone for encouraging good relationships by making some small changes in your behavior. Here are 5 strategies that will help you do just that. 1. Be courageous with open communication. This is the absolute best way to connect and also to reduce

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Is Your Communication Good Enough?

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As I often do, I spent this morning looking for something. Those who know me best, know that I lose things. I saw a sign that captures my thoughts on this:     Organized people are people that are too lazy to look for things. I was looking for this little key fob thing for my computer to connect it to another drive. After no success, this real life transcript took place: Me: I can’t find my key fob Husband: Isn’t it supposed to be on your key ring? Me: Yes, but I was afraid I would lose it. Husband (while busting up laughing):  Do you

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10 Communication Tips for Creating Memories that Last

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One Christmas, when my kids were very young, we left a small gift for them in their room that could open us as soon as they woke up.  The idea was that it might slow them down enough to give us a few more minutes of sleep. What happened was that the minute they awoke they screamed with delight. They ran into our bedroom and exclaimed, “Santa came!” They opened their gift on our bed – a Polly Pocket and a Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtle – and squealed with joy.  I turned to my husband and declared “We could have

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How to get your relationship back on track

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Here’s a news flash. If you are in a relationship with someone – at work or at home –  there will be challenges and problems. There will be valleys. It will get hard and you will get frustrated at some point. Okay, that was the bad news. The good news is that you can be prepared to face challenges by learning to focus on a few small things. Here are some ways you can get your relationship back on track when challenges arise: When something happens that you need to deal with, deal with it.  Don’t let issues pile up until they

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How to Stop Arguing and Start Communicating

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Have you ever had a conversation like this one? “You bought the wrong kind.” “I did not.” (louder) “You did too. You never listen to me.” (even louder)”Yes I do.” “No you don’t……”   A conversation like this one can easily escalate into an argument that can leave you feeling like you are stuck in mud – going nowhere fast.  Rather than working to communicate clearly the conversation resorted to being, well, lazy.  You are left  feeling  both frustrated and angry, The result of lazy communication is usually misunderstandings, disagreement, and arguing.  It  certainly doesn’t serve as an effective way

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You Won’t Know Unless You Ask

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Some people fold after making one timid request. They quit too soon. Keep asking until you find the answers.  ~ Jack Canfield, Success Coach Maiya, always good at The Ask I am always amazed at how easy it is to make things happen in your life if you just ask for what you want. Asking is a powerful communication skill that most of us are shy about using. Of course the classic example is men and directions, but not asking when you could or should happens to all of us. Every day. We make things harder than they need to

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