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10 Ways to be a More Positive Communicator

Cornerstone Coaching and Training

You never know when one kind act, or one word of encouragement, can change a life forever. – Zig Ziglar One of the most powerful ways to improve relationships is to simply be a more positive communicator. Positive communication is contagious and brings out the best in yourself and in those around you. When you practice positive communication, people are more likely to listen to you, the conversation goes better, and the results can be transforming. The following is an excerpt  from my book, Dancing with Strangers,  and puts the concept to work: 10 ways to be a more positive communicator 1.

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Good Communication Starts by Changing Three Things

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The quality of a person’s life is in direct proportion to their commitment to excellence, regardless of their chosen field or endeavor. ~ Vince Lombardi I really like this quote – it reminds me that to be excellent in an area of your life you have to choose excellence and be totally committed to it.  Like the kid kissing the pig, you have to be all in. Most relationships struggle with communication in some way.  Quite simply, when we are communicating well with someone, things go so much better than when we aren’t. A personal commitment to strive for better communication is

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Really, Betty? Really??

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I’ve been thinking of my sweet Auntie Thea lately. About how she was able to get me to talk about things I really didn’t want to talk about. And, how she got me to fess up to the truth, throw my cousin under the bus, or share some secret I didn’t think I would ever share.  It was her gift. How did she do it?  She did it by making me feel very special.  After I would say something,  anything, such as “school is going fine, Auntie Thea”, she would say “Really, Betty?” and then add with emphasis and great

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Just shut up and listen to me!

Cornerstone Coaching and Training

One of the most important communication skill that we can all improve on is listening.  Ever want to just shout – “Hey – shut up and listen to me!”?  Most of us have, and, I hate to break it to you, someone has probably wanted to shout that at you as well. Which of the following have you ever thought about (be honest) while someone is talking to you? • Get to the point. • I already know the punch line. I’m way ahead. • This is boring, I’m checking out. • I wonder what I should have for dinner.

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How to improve your listening: my top 10 success tips

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It takes two to speak the truth — one to speak and another to hear. ~ Thoreau Ever feel like you could use a list of best practices for listening?  Well, here you go. The following are my top 10 success tips for improving your listening skills. Now, here’s a 2-step process for how to make the most of this list: 1) Read it over and note which areas you already do well in and then circle the ones that you could improve on. 2) Take one that you have circled and make a plan to on it this week. 

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Test Your Listening Skills

Cornerstone Coaching and Training

A Quick Self-Rated Listening Quiz Here is a quick quiz I use in some of my workshops designed to show you what skills are necessary to be a good listener. Answer these questions by grading your Listening Behaviors. Read the question and think about whether the statements are true of you. If the statement is always true of you, note the answer as “Always”. If the statement is not always true of you, note the answer “Sometimes”. “Rarely” would indicate that you would rarely or never listen that way. 1. I allow speakers to complete sentences before I speak. 2.

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Communication Skills for Success Workshop

Cornerstone Coaching and Training

Change Your World I am super excited to be bringing my signature Communication Skills for Success workshop to Olympia, Washington in January! It’s my most popular workshop because in just one day of training, you will learn some tips and skills to transform your relationships at work and at home. I have taken hundreds of people through this training and the response is always similar to this one: “Betty is so ‘real’ that she was able to connect with everyone in attendance and the evaluation feedback was amazing. Attendees were so excited about having tools to use in their lives”.

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Take time to communicate well

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Face it. We have a lot of demands on our time.  Do you ever try to take some shortcuts?  I know I do.  There are some areas in life that works well taking shortcuts – maybe use simpler recipes, or find a shorter route to work. But, whatever you do, Don’t take shortcuts when you communicate. It may seem easier or faster, but taking shortcuts when we communicate can cause bigger problems that suck up a lot more time later. In our quest to be efficient, and hurry along, we can make embarrassing mistakes.  In a business setting mistakes can

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Did you really say that?

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I didn’t really say everything I said. – Yogi Berra What you hear isn’t always what was said. Last spring I flew to Cincinnati for a marketing meeting in Columbus, Ohio.  I was picked up at the airport in Cincinnati by my colleague, Chris, who lives in Kentucky. I had never been to the Midwest before so Chris spent some time pointing out the highlights of the skyline. He noted the new “Bingo” stadium that is open air and holds 70,000. Bingo stadium? I had no idea that Cincinnati was the Bingo capital of the world.  Wow – 70,000 little

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Need a communication plan?

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Have you ever felt like you need a road map to communicate with others? Sometimes just having a plan can make a huge difference in how well you communicate. So, before you open your mouth, read on. Here are 4 small steps that, if you practice them, will help you become a better communicator. 1. Observe Pay close attention to you own body language and the body language of who you are talking with – it is our primary means of communication!  Think about how you are coming across.  Keep you body position open and at eye level. 2. Listen

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