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How to Facilitate an Appreciation Circle

Appreciation

You shouldn’t say ‘I love you’ unless you really mean it. Then you should say it a lot. People forget that. ~ Jessica, Age 8 Studies have found that practicing appreciation can improve relationshps and motivate employees.  It can also increase wellness and lessen stress. In short, regular appreciation will not only boost performance and engagement, but also improve an employee’s health and well-being. There are certainly many ways to show appreciation.One of my favorites to use with a work group is to facilitate an appreciation circle. Getting Comfortable with the Uncomfortable Participating in an appreciation circle can be uncomfortable for some at

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Communicate Your Love|Give Your Valentine a Heart Attack

Cornerstone Coaching and Training

Valentine’s Day is a great time to think about how to communicate how much you appreciate your loved ones in your life.  Communicating your love is sometimes uncomfortable, but always important. Communicating well can be the best way to improve and get what you want out of any relationship. Here are some really easy, inexpensive and tangible ways to do that. Give them a “Heart Attack!” Take heart shaped sticky notes and write love statements (why you love them, or simply write “I love you”). Put them all over a mirror, door, walkway, counter – wherever they will easily find

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10 Ways to be a More Positive Communicator

Cornerstone Coaching and Training

You never know when one kind act, or one word of encouragement, can change a life forever. – Zig Ziglar One of the most powerful ways to improve relationships is to simply be a more positive communicator. Positive communication is contagious and brings out the best in yourself and in those around you. When you practice positive communication, people are more likely to listen to you, the conversation goes better, and the results can be transforming. The following is an excerpt  from my book, Dancing with Strangers,  and puts the concept to work: 10 ways to be a more positive communicator 1.

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Communication Tools: The Power of Micro-Connects

Cornerstone Coaching and Training

I can live one or two months  on one good compliment – Mark Twain One of the deepest human needs is to feel appreciated.  It’s what makes us feel valued. It’s what makes us happy and it’s what motivates us.  We live in a culture that is appreciation deprived.  Studies show that up to 70% of workers feel they are not appreciated. But, the good news is that when you give appreciation to someone on a regular and informal basis, you will see a 40% increase in their performance. Wow! Why don’t we do more of that? Mostly it’s because we

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Positive comments – are yours 5 to 1?

Cornerstone Coaching and Training

When words are both true and kind, they can change our world. ~ Buddha   Are you a positive communicator?  Do you focus on what’s going well instead of what isn’t going well?  Do you regularly practice appreciation and gratitude?  Are your words kind and positive? Are you sure? Many of us don’t think much about how we come across. Quite frankly, we aren’t all that self aware. We tend to think we come off better and more positive than we really do. Studies show that positive to negative comments should be in a 5 to 1 ratio for a

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The Thanksgiving Gratitude Challenge

“Piglet noticed that even though he had a very small heart, it could hold a rather large amount of gratitude.”  – A.A. Milne, Winnie the Pooh  When my kids were young we went around the table at Thanksgiving and shared what we were thankful for. The adults went with the family, friends and health theme but the kids – well, they kept it real. Some examples: “I’m thankful I found my lost lego man;” “I’m thankful that Christmas is coming next;” and one of my all time favorites “I’m thankful I’m not a Pilgrim.” Yes, Thanksgiving is  the one day of

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10 Communication Tips for Creating Memories that Last

Cornerstone Coaching and Training

One Christmas, when my kids were very young, we left a small gift for them in their room that could open us as soon as they woke up.  The idea was that it might slow them down enough to give us a few more minutes of sleep. What happened was that the minute they awoke they screamed with delight. They ran into our bedroom and exclaimed, “Santa came!” They opened their gift on our bed – a Polly Pocket and a Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtle – and squealed with joy.  I turned to my husband and declared “We could have

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It’s All About Perspective

Cornerstone Coaching and Training

I told my brother, Gary, that this summer I had one toe dipped in work, one in helping with my sick sister, and one in planning a wedding. He replied, “It’s a good thing you have 10 toes!” Doesn’t it always seem that when you are feeling maxed out, someone puts your frustration in perspective? As I juggled a challenging job with coast to coast travel, my sister’s terminal illness, and planning my baby girl’s wedding, I sometimes wondered how I would manage. On a stress level, with 10 being high, I was hovering around 12.  And, just when I would start

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How to Stop Arguing and Start Communicating

Cornerstone Coaching and Training

Have you ever had a conversation like this one? “You bought the wrong kind.” “I did not.” (louder) “You did too. You never listen to me.” (even louder)”Yes I do.” “No you don’t……”   A conversation like this one can easily escalate into an argument that can leave you feeling like you are stuck in mud – going nowhere fast.  Rather than working to communicate clearly the conversation resorted to being, well, lazy.  You are left  feeling  both frustrated and angry, The result of lazy communication is usually misunderstandings, disagreement, and arguing.  It  certainly doesn’t serve as an effective way

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Love the one you’re with (that’s you!)

Cornerstone Coaching and Training

Are you your own worst enemy? You may not think you are, but how you treat yourself can make a huge difference in how you communicate with others. In fact, whether we like it or not, what you believe about yourself is who you are. If you aren’t always your own best friend, here are five ways you can learn to love the one you are with.  1. Be self-aware. Listen to your inner chatter. What do you find yourself thinking? Are you thinking negative thoughts about yourself? Catch yourself and make a change.  2. Pause. When you hear yourself thinking

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